Failure doesn’t have to be a bad thing if you decide that it’s not a bad thing. If you see failure as a bad thing that needs to be avoided at ALL costs, then I want to invite you to change that belief.
When you can see failure as part of life and something to be accepted and used to grow. Then your life will be way easier. I learned that the hard way. Long story short I thought I wanted to become a doctor. So I spent 8 months of my adult life trying to follow that path. I quit my job, dedicated myself 8 hrs a day to studying for the MCAT, and preparing my applications. And I really honestly thought I had a great chance to get in. But I didn’t. And after receiving rejection letter after rejection letter, I was so depressed and embarassed that I couldn’t face myself. And I spent the next 3 years of my life in denial that I even wanted to be a doctor.
I was in denial that I wanted more for myself. I was in denial that I could be something other than a consultant. And I just let myself medicate this pain with alcohol and partying. Eventually I started to heal, and I started to forgive myself. I talked about what happened and came to terms that being a doctor was not the right path for me. But it took me 3 long years.
I don’t want that to happen to you. All it would have taken was for someone to tell me – don’t think of your failure as a bad thing. Because it wasn’t a bad thing. Sure at the time it felt terrible. But I didn’t even let anyone in to my life to help me feel better. And if I had done that, then I would have recovered sooner and gotten back to figuring out my career.
In reality, not getting into med school was a good thing, because even if I had gotten in then I would have figured out in school that I didn’t really want to be a doctor. I did want to be a healer. But the way doctors help people heal was not the way I wanted to help people heal. Eventually I did find my calling – to be a bodyworker, but first I had to accept my failure, learn from it and move on.
So whenever you are faced with failure:
- Stop and remember its not a bad thing.
- Take a moment to reflect on what happened.
- Use what you’ve learned to make a change.
Failure is a part of life and it’s hard. But it doesn’t have to hold you back. Don’t let it hold you back.